If you have recently become a divorced parent, then the question probably on your mind is how does divorce affect children? In my opinion, it depends on what kind of relationship you have with your ex-spouse. Divorce can and will have a profound effect on children.
If the parents were able to maintain an ongoing positive relationship, then a divorce will not be such a big deal. At the same time, children that have had some form of a good relationship with one or both parents will be much less likely to experience a divorce.
However, if the marriage has turned out to be rocky, then divorce will be one of the biggest traumas the child will have to face. In addition, divorces that were fought very hard and with much emotion will affect children more than ones that were settled fairly quickly.
Obviously, it doesn’t matter what happened in the past; whether you were married for a long time or were divorced just a short while ago. The biggest impact of divorce on children is whether they are going to live with a divorced parent or in a two-parent household.
It’s quite common for children to feel torn about the split. They may very well go from one parent to the other, or even a third person, but they are always hoping that their new “family” can be just as loving and caring as their old one.
Unfortunately, children of divorced parents often have a difficult time in adapting to different circumstances. They may feel detached and lonely, or angry with their father or mother for leaving them.
The bad news is that the divorce isn’t going to be the end of the world. It is only going to make things worse.
As long as the children are able to communicate well with their new step parents, the split should not present a problem. So as long as the new family is being supervised well by an attorney, then the child should have a good chance of coping with the divorce.
As I said earlier, the divorce will affect children in many different ways. One thing that is almost certain is that they will have to deal with the emotional and psychological effects of a divorce.
When children get divorced, they usually suffer from being the loser. But because they are no longer living with their “real” parents, it’s hard for them to let go of this view.
I am glad that divorce is not always the final answer to a child’s problems. I would recommend that anyone who has ever considered divorce to go in with a lawyer, or at least find a divorce and custody lawyer.